• Consensual - the presence of on-going mutual informed consent is the basis for all adult Kink Activities
• Pleasurable, positive & enjoyable for everyone involved, physically & mentally healthy
• Mindset for everyone during these activities is positive and erotic
• Add a positive dimension to people's lives and may even help them heal and grow

Abuse:

Abuse is marked by compulsivity, a lack of control, shame, lies, anger and most important of all, a lack of mutual informed consent. Abuse and the evidence of it is nearly always hidden from as many people as possible, denial and defensiveness often accompany discussions of the abusive activities. Abuse frequently happens when things are bad and people's mindset during the abuse is negative. The abusers normally exhibit poor control over when, where, and to what extent they will abuse someone. Abuse is limiting and destructive to the lives of everyone involved. Abusers will frequently feel guilty after abusing someone, though not always. Abuse is frequently accompanied by drug and alcohol use, abuse and addiction.

Abuse:

• Lack of consent
• Unenjoyable, unpleasant (if not horrific) for at least some of the people involved, frequently for all of the people involved
• Limiting and destructive for everyone involved, physically and mentally
• Mindset for everyone involved is negative and oppressive
• Often leads to long term mental health and physical health issues for everyone involved
• Abusers are criminals, whether spouse batterers, child molesters, rapists
• Is often accompanied by drug and alcohol use, abuse and addiction
• Is often cyclical and compulsive in nature

The Kink Community

Ultimately, the Kink community is similar to other types of communities where adults engage in recreational pursuits. From scuba diving to hang gliding to martial arts, many of these activities have elements that can be described as violent and/or dangerous and regularly result in injuries to the participants yet are very popular across the entire world. Injuries are actually rare in Kink and most of the activities are not dangerous. A few of the activities might purposefully involve striking or hurting another person, like the sports of football, wrestling or boxing. However unlike those sports, Kink participants are rarely if ever, combative, adversarial or hostile towards one another. Participation in Kink recreational diversions often requires skill and knowledge to do safely, just like scuba diving, ball room dance or mowing the lawn.

Kink Activities are physically, mentally and spiritually healthy recreational pursuits engaged in by consenting adults with other consenting adults. They are popular, done all over the world, and nearly always contribute to the positive growth of the people involved.